A viral tweet posted April 21 turned into an all-out battle of the sexes on social media. Twitter user Ike Magnifico posted a TikTok video of a woman and man arguing following the dude’s shady plan change for the pair’s second date.
In the footage, the unidentified couple exchanged words after old boy reneged on plans to take his new girl to the Darden-owned restaurant, Capital Grille. Instead of informing his date, he had changed the plans. He opted to prepare her a steak dinner at his crib without informing her about the new agenda. Apparently, the dude’s ego was bruised after the woman expressed her displeasure at his gesture, so he recorded the interaction to garner sympathy.
“So y’all tell me what’s so bad about me deciding to cook a home-cooked meal for my girl,” he asked as she challenged him in the background. “She’s upset.”
“Everything is bad about this,” she responded. “Yes, I’m upset because this was our second date. I expected you to take me to the Capital Grille.”
“So what.”
“And we will go to the Capital Grille on another day,” he replied.
“When, when?”
“We went out..”
“You aren’t keeping your word.”
The woman explained that his word mattered and that changing the plans last minute wasn’t a good look. He argued that he was doing what he said he would. She then clowned his plate of steak, mashed potatoes and broccoli. In the TikTok video, the embarrassed dude then opined that she just wanted to complain. Old boy put the pedal to the medal on the gaslighting, even after she explained that while she found it thoughtful that he cooked for her– they were supposed to go out. The goofy chef proceeded to deflect to homeownership and continued gaslighting the woman by suggesting she go out with someone who keeps his word.
Say less.
Ultimately, the two couldn’t see eye-to-eye, and she gave him his “dusty, crusty” plate of food and hit the bricks.
Ike Magnifico wrote in the caption, “No way she would be sitting in my dining room that long………”
No way she would be sitting in my dining room that long……… pic.twitter.com/Z0Ys6JqTlC
— Ike Magnifico (@IkeMagnifico) April 21, 2023
The cornballs quickly jumped in to pontificate how they would’ve put the woman out of their homes, that she was ungrateful and somehow that Black woman was using him for a meal and money.
My nigga grill marked that steak and served her kook-aid? Yeah she gotta go fam
— Dark Voorhies (@DontaFromVA81) April 21, 2023
You saw this and you took that out of it. Fam, she should be happy someone did something for her at least. She’s ungrateful, if he misspoke or she misunderstood, who cares. Why all the attitude for, b happy someone is doing something good for you in the first place. Shorty…
— RadicaLatino (@radical_latino_) April 22, 2023
— Mental Healing Matters (@Popular_Nobody_) April 21, 2023
As soon as he said he owned that house her demeanor shifted lol. She knew she f*cked up
— David Wayne (@DavdWayne) April 21, 2023
Then, the pick-me brigade, embarrassingly, shared its two cents on why the woman should’ve sucked it up and eaten her home-cooked steak dinner.
Ungrateful gold digger 🙄 I’ll go on a date with him and let him cook for me that’s romantic 🥰
— ❤Amori❤🇵🇷🇵🇷 (@AnnieMontalvo3) April 23, 2023
I WISHHHHH a guy would do this for me ☹️
— ♡Minti♡ 𝗢𝗻𝗹𝘆𝗙𝗮𝗻𝘀 𝗧𝗼𝗽 𝟳.𝟯% (@_xmintix_) April 23, 2023
Why she so upset
— Ifeade_Lucie (@Ifeade_Lu) April 22, 2023
See girls like her are the reason why Men like this be lowkey scared to do little cute things like this. MA’AM he just cooked for you!
— Ra • (@Ra_Earth_) April 21, 2023
Disgusting behavior.
My date surprising me by cooking for me would’ve been a *huge* win 🤎— Asyd Trip (@Asyddtripp) April 24, 2023
Black women who had common sense and understood why she was upset– quickly set the record straight on the faux chef’s intentions, explaining why it was deceptive for a second date.
CMON SIS!! He should’ve DISCLOSED.. He’s literally saying.. I know I said this, but this is what you’re getting.. NAW, SON. FOH pic.twitter.com/GZ0vbBaW88
— @KekaAraújo (@KekaAraujo313) April 24, 2023
She got a point…
— BushQUEEN🌳 LA/Vegas April 19-30 (@helloitsleahtho) April 21, 2023
Facts because i immediately said why did you not communicate that you decided not to take her out and if it’s a first date I’d feel played because what’s your intentions why I’m at your house now because they do that too set you up at home then ask for you know what
— Earth The High Priestess (@EarthBayou) April 23, 2023
I dont like how yall ignoring the fact that he lied about where they were going. He could’ve communicated that the plans changed. Its not cool to “test” someone and then he wont even apologize, shame.
— The pretty poison pusher (@HazardsIvy) April 25, 2023
Wow, dude lied to her and then tried to gaslight her. She’s right, all he had to do was communicate and tell her that he was going to cook for her at his house. Instead, he played the slick and cheap role to make it easier for him to have sex with her via home court advantage.
— Chakras, Melanin, and Vibrations (@Goddess_Chakra) April 21, 2023
But he lied. And when we ignore lies this is when we get ourselves in trouble. We expect from him what he has never given which is honesty. She drug it out no lie. She should have just left.
— Hattie L. Carlis (@hattiecarlis) April 21, 2023
Brothers, with their heads on straight, picked up what the upset woman was putting down and defended her. They even called out their weird brethren.
Lol. I’m torn.
If he said they were going to The Capital Grille, I understand why she’s upset.
However, it’s the second date. There’s no need to argue, especially in his apartment. He could have shown her the door at any moment.
Ultimately, it was poor execution on his part.
— Jay Robinson (@JaybytheBeach1) April 22, 2023
Kool aid in wine glasses and you thought she wasn’t going to drag you pic.twitter.com/yhSoTUjokf
— 👨🏾🍼GODDADDY GRUNDY (@G_R_U_N_D_Y) April 23, 2023
Nope this is on Donny should never of mentioned the restaurant if you weren’t taking her there. She’s got a right to be disappointed that meal looks basic
— LoveWillTurnYouBroke (@LuvWillTurnYouB) April 22, 2023
Ima leave this here pic.twitter.com/22X4xGCz6Q
— TommyH (@__Aplomb) April 25, 2023
Sorry fam, if you’re telling a woman you’re taking her somewhere you have to stick to that. The way women are treated out here everything is scary. Don’t pull out surprises on the 2nd date lol
— King Jahsh (@KingJahsh) April 25, 2023
The tweet has amassed damn near 30 million views.
In 2021, Allison Wiltz wrote a poignant piece on Black women having to deal with struggle love and settling. Wiltz pointed out that Black men were increasingly their sisters to resign themselves to not asking for their worth or to be treated as well as other women. And with the expectation that they still needed to lift brothers up.
Hell NAW.
In these streets, word is bond. And the goofy chef in the video failed. He can hold that “L,” and I hope our good sis found her way to Capital Grille with someone who deserved her company.
Originally posted 2023-04-30 16:45:41.